RETURN TO THE MASCULINE INSTINCTS

Demeter, the goddess of the fertility of the resources of nature, who had been pursued by Poseidon in our last section, carries us into a new story, and the masculine trait that in Romantic Dynamics, is called the Hades Instinct. Man's need for occasional isolation and privacy.

Hades is the brother of Zeus like Poseidon, but of the three, is rather the “odd man out.” He prefers being [Read more...] about Hades Instinct

Harmonia is the goddess of harmony and concord, and her sister is Eris, the goddess of discord, who actually got the three original goddesses to feud over the attention of Paris - Aphrodite, Hera and Athena. Her brother is Eros, the god of love, and her parents are the Goddess of Love, Aphrodite, and the God of War, Ares. We can see already that the Harmonia Instinct in women is the desire to [Read more...] about Harmonia Instinct

Helen was known as the most beautiful woman in the world, and she played upon that power of the physical appearance to turn the ancient world, upside down with what amounted to a war for possession of her. This is perhaps the ultimate statement of independence, and something behind the Helen Instinct for women's use - how to be both physical and not "possessed" by others, and the unique dynamics [Read more...] about Helen Instinct

All good things in life come with effort, and the man’s satisfaction and boost of masculinity he feels comes in part by way of yet another Greek god-based instinct in him: the Hephaestus Instinct – god of “a job well done,” or “honest work,” or the “blue collar work ethic”, which drives the male need for “meaningful work.” (Hephaestus was the actual husband of Aphrodite, on whom she cheated with [Read more...] about Hephaestus Instinct

The Hera Instinct is at the foundation of the skills of "mothering" others, but far more, as well. It is the feminine instinct that governs every adult feminine task - that of mothering, yes, but also of being a spouse, being a leader and administrator, a property owner, a financier, and a woman participating in the community life or government. As such, she has multiple interests and tasks that she [Read more...] about Hera Instinct

Hercules is the story of the "honorable loser," one who is willing to gracefully lose a battle in order to win a war. In effect, his deification results from the valor in fighting battles, and submission to die on a funeral pyre, thus, becoming a god.  It is a man's ability to sacrifice for a greater cause, to lose gracefully and not as a "sore loser," only then to see [Read more...] about Hercules Instinct

His nature has been called, “mercurial,” when a man is fickle, flighty, changing to and fro often, and hard to pin down or “label.” Much like the liquid metal that is his namesake, the Roman god, Mercury – known as Hermes to the Greeks – was the god of speed, the messenger to the gods of Mt Olympus, and quite the trickster.

This masculine instinct inspired by Hermes is the [Read more...] about Hermes Instinct

Hestia was the goddess whom, to the ancient Greek citizenry was paid such respect, that she is the first paid homage at every meal, before any other god. She was the sister of Zeus, himself, and when she approached him to tell of her wish to be of eternal service to Mt Olympus, even forsaking marriage to do so, her brother was touched. He soon made her the chief administrator [Read more...] about Hestia Instinct

The "software" of the conscious mind, including the executive functions, beliefs, preferences, and in general, is about character maturity.

Its operations have directives, integrated with the five senses, geared toward decoding the world around us, finding the way to goals that we want to accomplish, the higher brain has a sense of linguistics and story to it, which helps us reliably predict future probable outcomes for decisions that we make [Read more...] about Higher Brain

Beliefs are first and foremost, private and personal, and so the communication of beliefs is quite honest. When you convey your ideas honestly, you include the data, but also the heart-felt emotion associated, and are taking a bit of a risk with the audience in so doing. This makes honesty a virtue, because you are being constructive and win/win in offering your ideas to others, some of which may be [Read more...] about Honesty

Honor is a combination of the skill of curiosity with the trait of beliefs. Curiosity, you may remember, is largely composed of the core psychological skill of Observing Ego, paired with an educated eye, full of "left brain" ability for detail, history, and organization. Beliefs, you may recall, pertain to ideas that we deem to be true and valid, and yet carry such a large degree of [Read more...] about Honor

Hope and Faith - both can be used for good or bad or from either optimism or delusion. Where both lead to free willed decisions: they are the mirror reflection inside the boundary of the equal statistical potential of the random good and bad outside the boundary of what can either hurt or help us.

So it must come down to assessing stats of what’s coming our way using intuition [Read more...] about Hope

Hubris in being ambitious is a vice of excess related to the corresponding virtue of Aspiration. It is a kind of Aspiration on steroids, to the point of ignoring the needs of a partner, and also their potential, highly useful or even crucial contributions to a goal.

Marriage and commitment have a way of forcing us to reconsider our long-held goals, sometimes to align them better to the needs of [Read more...] about Hubris

While nobody is perfect, and nobody has a flawless record in their relationships, it is all the more important to imagine being with a partner who has a humble rather than aggrandized self-opinion. If it is success at our goals that we seek, but we find ourselves with a partner (or being the partner) who has an expanded sense of self, that will prove more costly to us both to [Read more...] about Humility

It was said that the German Philosopher and writer, Goethe, had three rules to follow in throwing a dinner party, something he loved to do often in his intellectual salons that he would put on.

The first was the necessity of joining together based on the events that had happened to the individuals invited that day.

The second is the need to unite his guests over topics from current events, [Read more...] about Humor

One of the two types of negative emotional energies (stress), that come at us from outside our personal boundary. The other is called, "loss."

The first line of defense against this negative energy and a force of unhappiness, is the personal boundary itself, trying to block the stress.

Hurt may be emotional, such as the negative, destructive comments of a bully, or it may be physical, such as a bee [Read more...] about Hurt

This social habit shows us how the more mature in defenses we get, the more subconscious or conscious they become as opposed to the pure, automatic unconscious. You may see how this one is similar to somatization or conversion, and yet the person experiencing it is also aware that they are spending time in thinking about illnesses that they may or may not have. Call it the “medical student Syndrome,” [Read more...] about Hypochondriasis