Pedantry is the vice of excess associated with the virtue of Scholarliness. we may be on the lookout for signs of frequent “pedantry” or “bombast” - for example, the frequent citing of one’s own education as the force of an argument rather than looking at the facts in the case of pedantry in an admittedly, highly educated person. For bombast, we may see a reliance on emotional arguments, again rather than facts.
In either, we may see the biggest shame of all: clearly and frequently pursuing “being right” in a discussion rather than pursuing harmony and happiness for the couple. In other words, “would you rather be right, or rather be happy if you could choose only one?” This is a revealing conversational test of both pedantry and bombast.