One of the 4 traits that make a person successful, coming from both an inborn and cultivated gift, and one of the 4 needed Commonalities of Commitment in a mate one seeks for long term romance.
Maturity is discussed throughout Romantic Dynamics, and can be described in various ways:
- The relative absence of pathological narcissism, its opposite, which is a form of selfish immaturity.
- Having what has been called, "high character," a set of the Virtues known to the philosophers, forms of "goodness" in a person, which is similar to the ideas from Game Theory of Economics, of being largely, a "constructive" person, whose actions are "win/win" in nature.
- Having a host of virtues more than of vices, the more "destructive" person with immature, "win/lose" actions.
You might have found at some point, that with age and experience, you had learned lessons in past attempts and failures at the task, and at the time, you felt overwhelmed, or too focused on just one aspect of it or another, causing it to flounder. Or you chose the wrong people to involve in it or assist you, such as many entrepreneurs find in their early careers. You also may not have had the discipline or resolve. But years later, you had more of an even-handed and even-minded approach to it, and were a better judge of collaborators, supporters, and partners, then saw your dream start to realize closer than ever before. You had grown some maturity along the way, whose balance" and discipline, and fairness toward other people really expanded your success. We don't fare well with a partner with whom we have very divergent maturity levels, which is like not having a partner at all.
There are also a host of ways that maturity leads us to success. For one, it comes from a place of "balance" of our psychological resources. It also follows that the concept from Aristotle of the Golden Mean - that for every human virtue, there happen to be TWO vices - one of an excess of the virtue, and one of a deficit of the virtue - the latter causing us to go astray, and fall into "failure." The balance within one's maturity in terms of the Golden Mean then, naturally spurs us on to success with whatever amount of psychological resources we have to work with.
Maturity is then one of the 4 Cardinal Traits of Success - Intelligence, Maturity, Beliefs and Goals - that we need to find in a lasting mate and partner.