Disarray is an excess of adaptation to the world around us, and adaptation is a major gift of the virtue of Philosophy. And so Disarray is the excess of Philosophy. A person who is "all over the map" in terms of how they approach goals. It's hard to get to any of them if there are too many of them.

Philosophy as a virtue, is composed of curiosity and maturity, [Read more...] about Disarray

Whenever you are in a relationship and are inexplicably getting blamed for something you didn’t do, it is very likely that this social habit is going on, especially if there is a “triangle” of relating.

For example, 1. you, 2. her, and 3. grandpa, or 1. you, 2. him, and 3. junior, or 1. you, 2. him, and 3. his boss, or 1. you, 2. her, and 3. her best [Read more...] about Displacement

This social habit is more than just ‘zoning out,” since it involves utterly losing touch with one’s sense of personhood for a time, to separate the experience of trauma, attack or anxiety on that personhood, a bit like getting up and leaving a room in which there is an argument going on, only the room is you.

The habit also can be done when one just separates or clamps [Read more...] about Dissociation

A gross reshaping of external reality to meet internal needs. This one is definitely worth noting and mentioning because it is so often used among couples in their communication. In that context, what is most often meant by it is to say that the other person is not interpreting us properly in communication. As you may guess, it is hard to overcome, and as you could imagine, is not compatible [Read more...] about Distortion