The Virtual School of Romance
The unconscious mind has been a core interest of philosophers throughout history. It has been referred to in many ways, from Aristotle to Freud. In Romantic Dynamics, we seek to get more precise and circumscribed about what it means exactly and how we can make the definition practical to ourselves.
And so for our purposes, we will view the unconscious mind as those mental processes that operate outside our [Read more...] about Unconscious
It is helpful to remember that in some way, defense mechanisms always pertain to the functioning of a personal boundary - either the outer one which connects us to the social world around us, or the inner, ego boundary which separates our unconscious instincts from our conscious mind and emotions. If we remember the visual depiction of a boundary, then we can always bypass the technical terms in which so [Read more...] about Undoing
Being Unsentimental is the vice of deficit for the virtue of Honor, or "venerability," which is an objective curiosity about the past and its value to us today. Someone who is unsentimental will tend to dishonor the past as if it doesn't matter. They may be "revisionist" about history, both global, or specifically the history of the relationship, and any harm done in the past by one partner to another. [Read more...] about Unsentimental
This is a common one, and a good one with which to see that in spotting the social habits in another person, we have a method of estimating their current maturity level by way of which ones they most commonly use. This then gives us an indicator of two important things about intellectual attraction:
Like intellectual Pedantry or physical Tyranny, which are vices about puffing up one's own status at the cost of the partner's, "self-nominating" behavior, or Usurpation is a character "vice of excess" that sees one as being the essence of "win/lose" or destructive toward a partner for one' own gain. Only in this case, it is about grabbing resources and power for one's self rather than having a team approach. [Read more...] about Usurpation