The Virtual School of Romance
In the Romantic Dynamics model, "pathological narcissism" is an important feature of our psychology which can shoot down nearly any aspect of romance, and ruin the progress in any of the three phases of courtship. We borrow from the Self Psychologists, and Psychodynamic theorists to understand it, but also add some principles of the Game Theory of Economics, most notably, the Nash Equilibrium, to understand it.
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A mature defense mechanism that incorporates the use of one's Observing Ego and their Personal Boundary, and involves tolerance of waiting for opportunity, for the right time to do certain behaviors, and as a result, blocking the internal, unconscious drives and instincts - Freud's "Id" - which operate with impatience and immediacy.
We have said that patience may be a feature of the “inner boundary” we have been learning about - the “Ego Boundary” as I have called it - that which blocks or allows material from the unconscious instincts and drives to enter the conscious mind (whether or not having done that, your “outer boundary,” the Personal Boundary allows the impulse to be publicly expressed is a second matter.