Goals and success at getting to them are really, the only way to actually gain more control over the world, instead of suffering. This new control is defined simply - by an expansion of the size of your personal boundary, by actually reaching a goal. Now you control the goal. Goals are crucial to intellectual attraction and partnership, and so mastery of them is essential to a long term relationship. [Read more...] about Goals

In addition, the uniqueness of our own attachments and identifications with our specific and unique parents, and the random lot we have been given in being born to our particular parents will result in tendencies of being intellectually attracted to particular kinds of people with traits similar to our opposite sex parent, and to having made part of our core character tendencies, similar traits of our same sex parent. This [Read more...] about Golden Virtue

In a committed relationship or partnership, there is a relative overlap of one partner's personal boundary with that of another. The areas outside the overlap are essentially, the two partners' private selves, with their private thoughts, emotions, plans, decisions, actions outside the awareness of the other, and of course the place where one's personal life's goals ("mission in life" or "purpose in life") reside. The area inside the overlap is [Read more...] about Goldilocks Zone