The second phase of human courtship is governed by the functions of the Mammalian Brain - the software of the mind that rules the operations of the emotions, friendship and love, itself. This is a different state of being than that of only lust or desire, which is fleeting and fickle, and not particular to the nuances of a specific person. Not merely dependent on the polarity between masculine and feminine gender [Read more...] about Emotional Attraction
The Virtual School of Romance
Emotional Self-regulation
This defense really shouldn’t be called a defense at all. It’s a strength, it’s common sense, and a virtue. If there is any reflection of the direct connection between the defenses and one’s personal boundary function, this one is the best of the best as an example.
We discussed flaws or holes in our boundaries in prior sections as being associated with any vague, dramatic emotional experience, especially that of [Read more...] about Emotional Self-regulation
Emotional Self-sufficiency
This virtue of character and mature defense mechanism has, as its basis, not being dependent on the validation or approval of others. As such, you might consider it “self-love” or “self-respect.”
This virtue or mature defense takes all the shared teamwork aspects of the teamwork between a high character couple and turns it on its ear - looking at the privacy and rejuvenation that is necessary in balance for making [Read more...] about Emotional Self-sufficiency