You might see this social habit as being somehow related to the much more primitive, “denial,” in that it is an automatic, unconscious attempt to excuse one’s self from culpability for a moral failing or mistake. Anyone who has ever been in a love relationship knows it well, both from doing it, and being on the receiving end. It causes us to continue to function without guilt, and deal with [Read more...] about Rationalization

We have covered this one as an example, which involves automatically changing unconscious instincts or impulses that are consciously thought to be in violation of or unacceptable to our higher brained, moral codes (Freud’s Superego) into their opposites.

This unconscious social habit is interesting as a tool for “reading” and decoding others. It has been said that “the unconscious only thinks in positives, not negatives.” This is one of the [Read more...] about Reaction Formation

This social habit is one of those which has become part of the popular lexicon, and while people generally know what it means, it is important to see its core element as one of going backward in one’s level of maturity in response to a threatening stress or emotion. This means that the person has reached a certain level of development in their life, but the way they are behaving [Read more...] about Regression

Regret is similar to guilt in that it is an anxiety emotion, but it is more often self-administered or realized, as opposed to being dispensed by others or by the public, as guilt is.

Regret can form self-correction morally, and in so doing, fills us up with more conscience (ethics) and or intuition (shrewdness), from our lessons learned.

Its most unique feature is that it is directly caused by the [Read more...] about Regret

We have talked about “beliefs” as a construct of memory, and how it is that emotions tie to ideas in order to make a complete belief. This social habit might be said to be the opposite of intellectualization in a way, since it is one where the emotion is allowed to remain present, but the idea or knowledge of a conflict is what is sent out of the conscious mind. [Read more...] about Repression

The "software" of the unconscious mind, including the instincts, both in terms of gender instincts, and for survival purposes, as well as where one's unconscious beliefs, values and habits exist.

Its operations have two, prime directives - to keep us alive long enough to reproduce.

These are both about the state of feeling passion, to greater or lesser degrees - more excited and full of life, or else more empty, [Read more...] about Reptilian Brain

Resignation is a character "vice of deficit" stemming from what would otherwise be a character virtue of Inspiration. It is not the same as not caring or lacking curiosity about achieving a goal, but rather is a clear vision of the goal, but sitll being "faithless" or "down in the mouth" about the goal - lacking passion for it, when it is a core part of the self. It is [Read more...] about Resignation

Respect is a clear feature of our outer, Personal Boundary. Through seeing where we end and others begin, where our responsibility and ownership of resources ends and that of others begins, and where our control ends especially, and that of others begins forms the essence of respect. We have to respect the impossibility of controlling what belongs to others.

This is a clear feature of boundaries that are solid and [Read more...] about Respect

In Romantic Dynamics, Responsibility is an action and character virtue in one, correlating with the exact same amount of Authority that one inherently possesses to the same degree, especially in the third phase of courtship (partnership, Intellectual Attraction.) Example: 80 % of the responsibility taken on exactly equals the amount of authority they possess and which the partner must surrender, accept and encourage for the greater good of the team. [Read more...] about Responsibility

A type of data-processing, where our style of using data is creative, artistic, experiential, future-oriented, and visionary. It is the opposite of being "left-brained," and an intellectual style that is good when partnered with a left-brained person.